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Surviving Separation and Divorce – coming soon, to a bookshop near you…
Surviving Separation and Divorce Yep. A real, actual book, with my name on the cover. It’s been 7 years in the experiencing, thinking, writing, editing and printing – and now it’s almost in my, or your, hands. As far as … Continue reading Surviving Separation and Divorce – coming soon, to a bookshop near you…
Divorce: Whose fault is it anyway?
This week has seen the potential ‘Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020’ make it’s way through a Second Reading in the House of Commons. For the uninitiated or uninterested, this means they have agreed the idea in principle, and now … Continue reading Divorce: Whose fault is it anyway?
A-Z of Divorce: C…is for Counselling
If you’ve watched Series 2 of After Life lately, you may have an idea of what counselling is like. Thankfully it’s definitely a comedic take, excruciating to watch and unbelievably unprofessional, which makes it utterly hilarious. And I can’t say … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: C…is for Counselling
Restoring Divorced Lives
A zoom-ful of strangers…not something I’m usually looking forward to – I often can’t face feeling so self-conscious in front of the camera – but Monday evening feels a bit different. I’m leading a group at ‘Restored Lives‘, a new … Continue reading Restoring Divorced Lives
Divorce Stories
One of my passions is to connect people. I find there is enormous value in meeting someone who’s been or is in a similar situation to you because the connection is often invaluable. Not always of course, but the ‘getting … Continue reading Divorce Stories
Conflicting Obligations of a Careworker
I am prone to feeling paralysed at the best of times, and this is not the best of times. Usually it is because there are so many things to be done in day to day life and I worry about … Continue reading Conflicting Obligations of a Careworker
Supporting your separated and divorcing friends in the time of social distancing
One of my most popular posts is this one – practical ways to help a separated or divorcing friend. The trouble is that in this time of social distancing, practical in person isn’t all that handy. Most of us are … Continue reading Supporting your separated and divorcing friends in the time of social distancing
Separated yet living together in self-isolation …or ‘One time in your life you could really do with some social distance’
Thanks to a tweet from Annie and Lucy I had a sudden shudderingly awful recollection. Living together when you’re separated is horrible. So what about now when you’re having to self-isolate? It’s bad enough living in the same space for 14 … Continue reading Separated yet living together in self-isolation …or ‘One time in your life you could really do with some social distance’
Before you choose divorce…
According to statistics, the first Monday in January brings a peak in divorce applications. Intense expectations of time spent together, forced jollity and realising that this life isn’t what you want means the post festive season of dark mornings and … Continue reading Before you choose divorce…
The decade I divorced
I’ve seen the latest posts of lists of what’s happened over the last decade and enjoyed pondering what my own would be. The last decade, it is cliched to say, has been a rollercoaster. A slow, ten-year long rollercoaster that … Continue reading The decade I divorced
Book Review: Redeeming Advent
Why are you reading an Advent book in October? Christmas starts earlier and earlier each year and only the other day, I cursed the Christmas and Halloween shelf space in Poundland for bumping off the Tupperware I needed. So why … Continue reading Book Review: Redeeming Advent
Trusting After Divorce
As much as I wanted my marriage to be saved and for my ex-husband and I to reconcile, I couldn’t shake the nagging doubt at the back of my head. How will I ever trust him again? To reconcile would … Continue reading Trusting After Divorce
UCB Interview: Surviving Separation and Divorce
Today I had the chance to chat briefly to Paul Hammond on UCB1 about my book. Unfortunately the line wasn’t working well, so we’ll be chatting again next week; but here’s a taster of our conversation, with more to follow! I love talking about this, strangely, as I hope someone listening feels less alone and can identify with something I say, to help them though separation or divorce. Building connections is something I am hugely passionate about, and something I’m pondering on lately. Thanks Paul and UCB for having me on, I’m looking forward to a more in-depth chat soon! Continue reading UCB Interview: Surviving Separation and Divorce
Divorce Stories
On of my passions is to connect people. I find there is enormous value in meeting someone who’s been or is in a similar situation to you because the connection is often invaluable. Not always of course, but the ‘getting … Continue reading Divorce Stories
Learning to say ‘yes’
I – apparently and unsurprisingly – learnt to talk at a very early age. I was speaking in sentences before I was 2, and I haven’t stopped since. But with these two tiny words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’, I shift … Continue reading Learning to say ‘yes’
Divorce when you don’t have children
The month of Mother’s Day can dredge up some hard experiences of divorcing without children and facing the death of a dream. Continue reading Divorce when you don’t have children
Out of Control Extreme Edition
Anyone who has read my previous two ‘Out of Control’ posts will know my love of a plan… I just like to know where things are headed and how they might get there. Three years ago today I embarked on … Continue reading Out of Control Extreme Edition
The Kindness of Strangers
I can be quite close to tears at the best of times but tearing up on the tube is a new one, even for me. I wasn’t reading, or watching an emotive clip of someone’s heartfelt altruism on Facebook, someone … Continue reading The Kindness of Strangers
God is not a genie
When I read this post I kicked myself for not writing this sooner. The fact that God is not a genie has been in my mind for years. It’s been hard to write for reasons that will perhaps become clearer. … Continue reading God is not a genie
A-Z of Divorce: Z is for…Zoom
12 points go to…Jo! I did once live with Jo so perhaps this is as political as the douze points of Eurovision. So. Zoom. It was important to me to end the alphabet on a note of hope, but a … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Z is for…Zoom
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