This week has seen the potential ‘Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020’ make it’s way through a Second Reading in the House of Commons. For the uninitiated or uninterested, this means they have agreed the idea in principle, and now … Continue reading Divorce: Whose fault is it anyway?
I am prone to feeling paralysed at the best of times, and this is not the best of times. Usually it is because there are so many things to be done in day to day life and I worry about … Continue reading Conflicting Obligations of a Careworker
One of my most popular posts is this one – practical ways to help a separated or divorcing friend. The trouble is that in this time of social distancing, practical in person isn’t all that handy. Most of us are … Continue reading Supporting your separated and divorcing friends in the time of social distancing
Thanks to a tweet from Annie and Lucy I had a sudden shudderingly awful recollection. Living together when you’re separated is horrible. So what about now when you’re having to self-isolate? It’s bad enough living in the same space for 14 … Continue reading Separated yet living together in self-isolation …or ‘One time in your life you could really do with some social distance’
I’ve seen the latest posts of lists of what’s happened over the last decade and enjoyed pondering what my own would be. The last decade, it is cliched to say, has been a rollercoaster. A slow, ten-year long rollercoaster that … Continue reading The decade I divorced
As much as I wanted my marriage to be saved and for my ex-husband and I to reconcile, I couldn’t shake the nagging doubt at the back of my head. How will I ever trust him again? To reconcile would … Continue reading Trusting After Divorce
I – apparently and unsurprisingly – learnt to talk at a very early age. I was speaking in sentences before I was 2, and I haven’t stopped since. But with these two tiny words – ‘yes’ and ‘no’, I shift … Continue reading Learning to say ‘yes’
Anyone who has read my previous two ‘Out of Control’ posts will know my love of a plan… I just like to know where things are headed and how they might get there. Three years ago today I embarked on … Continue reading Out of Control Extreme Edition
I can be quite close to tears at the best of times but tearing up on the tube is a new one, even for me. I wasn’t reading, or watching an emotive clip of someone’s heartfelt altruism on Facebook, someone … Continue reading The Kindness of Strangers
When I read this post I kicked myself for not writing this sooner. The fact that God is not a genie has been in my mind for years. It’s been hard to write for reasons that will perhaps become clearer. … Continue reading God is not a genie
Last month I applied for a job I desperately wanted for a third time. The first time I didn’t know I wanted it. Second time, I narrowly lost out to my best friend, a worthy winner. Third time round, I … Continue reading Anticipating Disappointment
The furore around the Beckhams got me thinking. Are they divorcing? Aren’t they? What happened? This isn’t really what I’m thinking personally – I don’t know them and it’s none of my business. I feel sorry for anyone experiencing that, … Continue reading So What Happened? The intrigue and inquisitiveness in separation and divorce.
She has children. He has a career. She’s higher up the career ladder. They’re married. He’s single. They own a house. She’s travelling. Her children are so well behaved. She’s a leader. He’s always so well presented. How often have … Continue reading The Grass is Greener: Encouragement vs Envy
A short while ago I attended a hen do and two thoughts sped through my brain around 10.30pm in quick succession. ‘I would never have been doing this if all of ‘that’ hadn’t happened to me.’ And… ‘I love my … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Y is for…Yourself
Yesterday’s reading of one of my guilty pleasures got me thinking – what are you saying when you wearing a wedding ring, and when do you take it off? Continue reading When do you take off a wedding ring?
There is a song in the musical Avenue Q* that goes like this… “When I was little, I thought I would be, a big comedian on late night TV. But now I’m 32, and as you can see – I’m … Continue reading Non-Mother’s Day
I know, I know, it doesn’t technically start with ‘x’. But it would seem strange not to include the ‘ex’ in an A-Z of divorce. In this instance though, there’s a different focus. It’s not so much our exes themselves … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: X is for… Ex-in-laws
This story was originally published a couple of years ago on Threads in response to this article… Girl About Town’s post got me thinking – her post made me think I’d not made an awful lot of effort to date. … Continue reading Divorce and (a very brief foray into) online dating
‘Here’s what you could’ve won!’ A classic Bullseye catchphrase and precisely how it feels when you attend a wedding as a newly separated person, a divorcing person, or a divorced person. Choosing to go to someone else’s wedding can be … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: W is for… Weddings
January: the fresh, clean pages of the 2018 diary and a highly unnecessary amount of new stationary speak ‘new year’ to me. There’s a myriad of coloured pens – until I forget which one I was using for which category … Continue reading Processing 2017