If you’ve watched Series 2 of After Life lately, you may have an idea of what counselling is like. Thankfully it’s definitely a comedic take, excruciating to watch and unbelievably unprofessional, which makes it utterly hilarious. And I can’t say … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: C…is for Counselling
One of my passions is to connect people. I find there is enormous value in meeting someone who’s been or is in a similar situation to you because the connection is often invaluable. Not always of course, but the ‘getting … Continue reading Divorce Stories
As much as I wanted my marriage to be saved and for my ex-husband and I to reconcile, I couldn’t shake the nagging doubt at the back of my head. How will I ever trust him again? To reconcile would … Continue reading Trusting After Divorce
On of my passions is to connect people. I find there is enormous value in meeting someone who’s been or is in a similar situation to you because the connection is often invaluable. Not always of course, but the ‘getting … Continue reading Divorce Stories
12 points go to…Jo! I did once live with Jo so perhaps this is as political as the douze points of Eurovision. So. Zoom. It was important to me to end the alphabet on a note of hope, but a … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Z is for…Zoom
I know, I know, it doesn’t technically start with ‘x’. But it would seem strange not to include the ‘ex’ in an A-Z of divorce. In this instance though, there’s a different focus. It’s not so much our exes themselves … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: X is for… Ex-in-laws
‘Here’s what you could’ve won!’ A classic Bullseye catchphrase and precisely how it feels when you attend a wedding as a newly separated person, a divorcing person, or a divorced person. Choosing to go to someone else’s wedding can be … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: W is for… Weddings
“There are two sides to every story.” An old adage applying as much to separation and divorce as to any other situation. The significance in this instance is that only the two protagonists can fully know the story – yet … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: V is for…Version
I won’t lie, the letters at the end of the alphabet are somehow trickier than the earlier ones. Obviously I have X, Y and Z to yet contend with, not helped by missing Y out of my original ideas list … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: U…is for Upfront
“Be transformed by the renewal of your mind…” Believe in the Bible or not, in the realignment of your thought processes there is great opportunity for change. Our thought patterns come unbidden to our brains. Like Pavlov’s famous dogs, our … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: T is for…Thoughts
Friend. Unfriend. Follow. Unfollow. Block. Mute. Hide posts. Untag. Delete. Was divorce easier pre-social media? It seems unlikely, yet the minefield of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram – to mention a few – is not an easy one to navigate. With … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: S is for…Social Media
I’ve been asked several times whether I regret getting married. It’s a pretty punchy question. The implication is there that, because of the divorce, it was a potentially wrong or bad decision, and that I might wish I’d never met … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: R is for…Regret
Text me the word ‘question’ and you’ll get ‘tell me what you feel about me’ straight back. Because say the word ‘question’ and my mind shifts straight to Destiny’s Child’s Independent Woman. The woman is asking questions, and if there’s one … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Q is for…Questions
Divorces are a series of painfully unending endings. Relationships, experiences, dreams and plans come to conclusions in different ways that are hard to stomach. Not only does your marriage end, but you find other tiny endings along the way. Little … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: P is for…Possibilities
Recently I’ve taken up running (again). I’m not sporty, so having last year achieved an entire twenty minute run I was delighted – why I stopped there I don’t know – and a year on I’ve had to begin again at … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: O is for…Overcoming
No matter how long you’ve been married, when it ends in divorce it can feel like it was all for naught. You committed, you worked, you argued, you resolved, you did every tiny thing you could think of to secure … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: N…is for Naught
You marry; confident it’s forever. The wedding day was simply the beginning of the rest of your life. It turns out that divorced or married, your life is never so clear cut as to be mapped out from one event. Maybe … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: M…is for Marriage
“L, is for the way you look at me, O, is for the only one I see, V, is very very extraordinary E, is even more than anyone that you adore….” Ah love… Love and divorce. Not quite the same … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: L…is for Love
In 2015, my second most popular blog post was answering the unusual question, what do you do with your engagement ring? It was a very pertinent question to me at the time, and a rather complex one. My thinking included … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: K is for…Keepsakes
‘I want him to be happy, I just want me to be happier.’ This stuck in my mind after I spoke it a few years ago, and while not one of my finer moments, it was an honest one. It’s … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: J is for…Jealousy
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