This week has seen the potential ‘Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020’ make it’s way through a Second Reading in the House of Commons. For the uninitiated or uninterested, this means they have agreed the idea in principle, and now … Continue reading Divorce: Whose fault is it anyway?
If you’ve watched Series 2 of After Life lately, you may have an idea of what counselling is like. Thankfully it’s definitely a comedic take, excruciating to watch and unbelievably unprofessional, which makes it utterly hilarious. And I can’t say … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: C…is for Counselling
According to statistics, the first Monday in January brings a peak in divorce applications. Intense expectations of time spent together, forced jollity and realising that this life isn’t what you want means the post festive season of dark mornings and … Continue reading Before you choose divorce…
I’ve seen the latest posts of lists of what’s happened over the last decade and enjoyed pondering what my own would be. The last decade, it is cliched to say, has been a rollercoaster. A slow, ten-year long rollercoaster that … Continue reading The decade I divorced
As much as I wanted my marriage to be saved and for my ex-husband and I to reconcile, I couldn’t shake the nagging doubt at the back of my head. How will I ever trust him again? To reconcile would … Continue reading Trusting After Divorce
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Surviving Separation and Divorce Yep. A real, actual book, with my name on the cover. It’s been 7 years in the experiencing, thinking, writing, editing and printing – and now it’s almost in my, or your, hands. As far as … Continue reading Surviving Separation and Divorce – coming soon, to a bookshop near you…
Anyone who has read my previous two ‘Out of Control’ posts will know my love of a plan… I just like to know where things are headed and how they might get there. Three years ago today I embarked on … Continue reading Out of Control Extreme Edition
When I read this post I kicked myself for not writing this sooner. The fact that God is not a genie has been in my mind for years. It’s been hard to write for reasons that will perhaps become clearer. … Continue reading God is not a genie
12 points go to…Jo! I did once live with Jo so perhaps this is as political as the douze points of Eurovision. So. Zoom. It was important to me to end the alphabet on a note of hope, but a … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Z is for…Zoom
A short while ago I attended a hen do and two thoughts sped through my brain around 10.30pm in quick succession. ‘I would never have been doing this if all of ‘that’ hadn’t happened to me.’ And… ‘I love my … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Y is for…Yourself
Yesterday’s reading of one of my guilty pleasures got me thinking – what are you saying when you wearing a wedding ring, and when do you take it off? Continue reading When do you take off a wedding ring?
I know, I know, it doesn’t technically start with ‘x’. But it would seem strange not to include the ‘ex’ in an A-Z of divorce. In this instance though, there’s a different focus. It’s not so much our exes themselves … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: X is for… Ex-in-laws
This story was originally published a couple of years ago on Threads in response to this article… Girl About Town’s post got me thinking – her post made me think I’d not made an awful lot of effort to date. … Continue reading Divorce and (a very brief foray into) online dating
‘Here’s what you could’ve won!’ A classic Bullseye catchphrase and precisely how it feels when you attend a wedding as a newly separated person, a divorcing person, or a divorced person. Choosing to go to someone else’s wedding can be … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: W is for… Weddings
I won’t lie, the letters at the end of the alphabet are somehow trickier than the earlier ones. Obviously I have X, Y and Z to yet contend with, not helped by missing Y out of my original ideas list … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: U…is for Upfront
“Be transformed by the renewal of your mind…” Believe in the Bible or not, in the realignment of your thought processes there is great opportunity for change. Our thought patterns come unbidden to our brains. Like Pavlov’s famous dogs, our … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: T is for…Thoughts
Friend. Unfriend. Follow. Unfollow. Block. Mute. Hide posts. Untag. Delete. Was divorce easier pre-social media? It seems unlikely, yet the minefield of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram – to mention a few – is not an easy one to navigate. With … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: S is for…Social Media
I’ve been asked several times whether I regret getting married. It’s a pretty punchy question. The implication is there that, because of the divorce, it was a potentially wrong or bad decision, and that I might wish I’d never met … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: R is for…Regret
Divorces are a series of painfully unending endings. Relationships, experiences, dreams and plans come to conclusions in different ways that are hard to stomach. Not only does your marriage end, but you find other tiny endings along the way. Little … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: P is for…Possibilities
Recently I’ve taken up running (again). I’m not sporty, so having last year achieved an entire twenty minute run I was delighted – why I stopped there I don’t know – and a year on I’ve had to begin again at … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: O is for…Overcoming
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