Last month I applied for a job I desperately wanted for a third time. The first time I didn’t know I wanted it. Second time, I narrowly lost out to my best friend, a worthy winner. Third time round, I … Continue reading Anticipating Disappointment
The furore around the Beckhams got me thinking. Are they divorcing? Aren’t they? What happened? This isn’t really what I’m thinking personally – I don’t know them and it’s none of my business. I feel sorry for anyone experiencing that, … Continue reading So What Happened? The intrigue and inquisitiveness in separation and divorce.
She has children. He has a career. She’s higher up the career ladder. They’re married. He’s single. They own a house. She’s travelling. Her children are so well behaved. She’s a leader. He’s always so well presented. How often have … Continue reading The Grass is Greener: Encouragement vs Envy
A short while ago I attended a hen do and two thoughts sped through my brain around 10.30pm in quick succession. ‘I would never have been doing this if all of ‘that’ hadn’t happened to me.’ And… ‘I love my … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Y is for…Yourself
Yesterday’s reading of one of my guilty pleasures got me thinking – what are you saying when you wearing a wedding ring, and when do you take it off? Continue reading When do you take off a wedding ring?
I know, I know, it doesn’t technically start with ‘x’. But it would seem strange not to include the ‘ex’ in an A-Z of divorce. In this instance though, there’s a different focus. It’s not so much our exes themselves … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: X is for… Ex-in-laws
‘Here’s what you could’ve won!’ A classic Bullseye catchphrase and precisely how it feels when you attend a wedding as a newly separated person, a divorcing person, or a divorced person. Choosing to go to someone else’s wedding can be … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: W is for… Weddings
“There are two sides to every story.” An old adage applying as much to separation and divorce as to any other situation. The significance in this instance is that only the two protagonists can fully know the story – yet … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: V is for…Version
January: the fresh, clean pages of the 2018 diary and a highly unnecessary amount of new stationary speak ‘new year’ to me. There’s a myriad of coloured pens – until I forget which one I was using for which category … Continue reading Processing 2017
One of the very painful things around divorce and separation is knowing and working out how to survive Christmas when you feel alone. Being in an unknown world, often devastated by loss regardless of whether it was something you chose … Continue reading Christmas and Divorce
I won’t lie, the letters at the end of the alphabet are somehow trickier than the earlier ones. Obviously I have X, Y and Z to yet contend with, not helped by missing Y out of my original ideas list … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: U…is for Upfront
“Be transformed by the renewal of your mind…” Believe in the Bible or not, in the realignment of your thought processes there is great opportunity for change. Our thought patterns come unbidden to our brains. Like Pavlov’s famous dogs, our … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: T is for…Thoughts
Friend. Unfriend. Follow. Unfollow. Block. Mute. Hide posts. Untag. Delete. Was divorce easier pre-social media? It seems unlikely, yet the minefield of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram – to mention a few – is not an easy one to navigate. With … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: S is for…Social Media
I’ve been asked several times whether I regret getting married. It’s a pretty punchy question. The implication is there that, because of the divorce, it was a potentially wrong or bad decision, and that I might wish I’d never met … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: R is for…Regret
Text me the word ‘question’ and you’ll get ‘tell me what you feel about me’ straight back. Because say the word ‘question’ and my mind shifts straight to Destiny’s Child’s Independent Woman. The woman is asking questions, and if there’s one … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: Q is for…Questions
Divorces are a series of painfully unending endings. Relationships, experiences, dreams and plans come to conclusions in different ways that are hard to stomach. Not only does your marriage end, but you find other tiny endings along the way. Little … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: P is for…Possibilities
Recently I’ve taken up running (again). I’m not sporty, so having last year achieved an entire twenty minute run I was delighted – why I stopped there I don’t know – and a year on I’ve had to begin again at … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: O is for…Overcoming
Author’s Note: This week I’ve stood with my hands over my face listening and rendered myself unable to sleep with a late-night tune in… Dum, de dum, de dum, de dum… The theme tune of my childhood and soundtrack to the … Continue reading I’m turning into my parents – or ‘Why I listen to The Archers even though I was determined not to’
When I saw the title of this article, my heart sank. The article (worth a read before this) explores the ways there are of analysing and calculating the divorce rate, so far interesting to consider. The second part lists a series … Continue reading Whose marriage is at risk of divorce?
No matter how long you’ve been married, when it ends in divorce it can feel like it was all for naught. You committed, you worked, you argued, you resolved, you did every tiny thing you could think of to secure … Continue reading A-Z of Divorce: N…is for Naught